by Dr. Jeff Kaplan | Jun 1, 2020 | Blog Posts, Coaching
Power v. Force: The Introduction “Force always creates counterforce, its effect is to polarize rather than to unify. Polarization always implies conflict…inevitably it produces a win-lose dichotomy and because somebody always loses, enemies are always...
by Jeff Kaplan | Mar 30, 2020 | Blog Posts, Coaching
Practices #6 – 10 6. Focusing too much on yourself. Attain insight into your level of egocentrism by going back through your emails to see how many times you use “I.” Expressing that “The report looks good” instead of “I think the report looks good” takes the focus...
by Jeff Kaplan | Mar 30, 2020 | Blog Posts, Coaching
Do you ever receive very lengthy emails that only needed a few bullet points? Have you ever become emotionally triggered by something someone said in an email? Do you find yourself drowning in a sea of cc’s all day long? Everyone has a bad email...
by Jeff Kaplan | Mar 14, 2020 | Blog Posts, Coaching
How do I know if I’m doing a good job at work? People often compare themselves with others in order to gauge their own successes and achievements. This is a trap because they’re making up a story with very limited information about someone else’s performance....
by Jeff Kaplan | Feb 24, 2020 | Blog Posts, Coaching
If you remember nothing else, remember these two Do’s: 1) Be prepared and 2) Be present. Do #2: Be Present Don’t give a play by play of your resume and don’t simply tell the interviewer what you think he or she wants to hear. Interviews are not auditions, they are...
by Jeff Kaplan | Jan 26, 2020 | Blog Posts, Coaching
Clients often ask for advice on interviewing skills. “How can I best prepare? What questions should I ask? What should I say or not say when they ask about my weaknesses? What about my strengths? I don’t like to brag about myself. ...
by Jeff Kaplan | Dec 29, 2019 | Blog Posts, Coaching
“You’re being insensitive. Stop telling me I’m wrong and pay attention to how I feel!” We all make the occasional misstep of unintentionally hurting others’ feelings. However, for some, lacking empathy, or understanding and appreciating the feelings of others, is a...
by Jeff Kaplan | Nov 21, 2019 | Blog Posts, Coaching
Anxiety is something many people suffer from in various parts of their life. The degree of anxiety varies between person and situation. One type of anxiety is needing constant reassurance, such as in the workplace or at home. For example, at work you are among the...
by Jeff Kaplan | Aug 9, 2019 | Blog Posts, Coaching
Is there someone in your life who often points out how you, once again, let him or her down? “You never remember to get me flowers!” “You know I don’t like salmon.” (That’s one from my own marriage.) “You should know that I don’t like when you do...
by Jeff Kaplan | Aug 9, 2019 | Blog Posts, Coaching
In the previous sections of this entry: Part 1: Stopping the argument and Part 2: Working through the differences, I introduced two concepts: 1) asking “What do you want?” can stop an argument in its tracks, and 2) conflict resolution should be a...
