3 Ways to Respond to a Perceived Threat with Power versus Force, Part 3
3. Stay in Integrity
When you stay in integrity, you operate from a set of values and principles used to guide your behavior. You make decisions based on a sound model of gathering available data, brainstorming possible solutions, picking the solution that’s best for the organization, and seeking to maximize gains while minimizing unintended negative consequences to others and the business.
Also, when you act in integrity, you disengage the ego (avoiding force), use logic, include key stakeholders, approach problem-solving with transparency, and are even willing to sacrifice perceived personal gains for the betterment of the organization. This use of power (versus force) always leaves you whole. You’ll save energy and effort when you don’t have to defend your actions or reduce yourself to continually covering your tracks with deceptive tactics.
Integrity stretches far beyond the workplace, as David Hawkins says, “The only way to enhance one’s power in the world is by increasing one’s integrity, understanding, and capacity for compassion. Power serves others, whereas force is self-serving.” Integrity at the office benefits your career (even though there may be short-term adversity), whereas integrity in the world enhances your power to attract your utmost desires and reach your full potential in a positive way. Integrity and positivity never fail.
Being judged, criticized, blamed, or attacked is inherent in both working and living with others. Expect it. Instead of internalizing the threat, step back. Remember that responding with the ego’s force will only keep the tension alive and often leads to a zero-sum result. Use your energy to depersonalize the attack, tap into your heart’s compassion, and always act with integrity. It’ll make you feel good about yourself, sends the right message to others, and has the best chance at a successful outcome.